Saturday, August 26, 2006

School rejected Jo

I received a call from school just now, the lady is very kind to suggest me to think again whether we shall send Jo to school at his younger age (he is almost 30months old). She continued to say "the class has 20+ students, i think it's more difficult to give additional concentration to your son, how about home schooling that is more facilitated for 1 to 1 since your son has bowed legs that make him easily to fall."

I didn't ask for additional concentrated effort, but anyone with a modicum of motherly sense could have seen that i ought to mention his case to the school prior of the term started. He has bowed legs but it doesn't mean that he should be confined in the house without socialize with his peer. I know their difficulties to handle a large number of children when it comes to outdoor activities and i know their fear of getting scolded by parents for the careless attention. I've always been afraid of the Jo's schooling time as he tends to fall very easily when he runs, thus he need to wear a special orthopaedic shoes. The doctor even said the hunker down (sit down on heels) and cross legs style sitting are not suitable for him, but apparently these 2 styles are the favor sitting styles in nursery, right?

We introduced cycling and swimming to Jo which are less stimulation to him as running is prohibited for bowed legs people, but how to confine a little toddler not to run freely?

I have enrolled 2 schools for Jo, one is private and another is government. In fact, the government school is my personal preference in term of cleanliness and their large school compound. I would prefer school with spacious compound that Jo can exercise more and more, but his application is being declined because of his bowed threat, what a miserable case for my little one!

Some aunties said i'm too protecting him and said i should let him to fall more then only can train him walks more steadily, hey, silly aunties, you thought he always fall is due to the lacking of training? You thought after falling more will result to be steadily? Hey, you won't feel the pain even you saw him fell off, he is not your portion of flesh then how can you feel like what i feel? If this case happens to you, don't you act as protective as me? Why some sillies like to comment this and that, what's gone wrong for a mother to protect her son? Likewise, some relatives even said sarcastically to me as i was not slept in proper style when Jo was in my belly, hey, don't you know this is a genetic problem? My family is free from this problem then why the spearhead is always pointed to me? Why they like to conclude that all the shortcomings are always from me and the good always from my hubby?

OK, nevermind, we will opt to the private one!

p/s: Jo has 19 teeth now~~

16 comments:

荦怡 said...

Hui sia阿姨,
您要找的学校是在中国还是马国?

Bow leg并不是什么缺陷呀?怎能带有歧视?(气)
放心吧!靖恺哥哥一定会找到好学校的。

jazzmint said...

some people just don't understand huh..it's always the case, when it's bad we mommy kena blame, but when it's good daddy get the praise. haiyo

voon poh yin said...

最明白你这位妈妈的付出应该是你的小靖恺了!

Grace said...

现在要找个有爱心的老师和学校真不容易,慢慢来总会找到适合JO的学校。

kelly said...

I would always keep an eye on Qianyi too..I don't want her to have another bad fall..So, don't let it bother you too much when people critize you. Cheer up! *hugs*

Jesslyn said...

人言可畏!
慢慢找,总有学校的,只怕没钱罢了。

mom2ashley said...

whoa...i can understand where you are coming from....i know its hard but dont let others bring you down...

My Rays said...

haizya, tell me which mum wouldn't over protect their kids?? kekeke...no matter how old they get, they will always be our babies....agree?

Fannie said...

Hui Sia, I understand how you felt when others are just not in your shoe.

I'm not sure about how the pre-school runs over there, rejecting over this issue is just not sufficient enough.

I'm sure he'll be able to find a better school and educators with more passion.

IMMomsDaughter said...

How discriminating of the school! Maybe it's best that Jo does not get in. Otherwise, the school would not know how to take care of him either. Don't worry Hui Sia, you are being a good mommy. Just ignore the 8poh.

blurblur said...

Just ignore those silly people and concentrate on your search for a better school for Jo, i'm sure you will be able to find one that is not as narrow minded as this one!

*hugs*

Little Ghost said...

我能明白你的心情, 不管怎樣, Jojo一定可以找到好的學校的. :)

chanelwong said...

you know the best...others don't know your son as well as you..

Zara's Mama said...

Some of these people are so insensative hor when they talk about a child's condition..

But a class with 20kids at this age? Not very good ler. Better to send him to a smaller group.

LaundryAmah said...

yup agree with Zara's mama..lauya school..so many kids..plus lauya comments! go find another school!

Flowsnow said...

Bowed legs..so what? As long as he is mentally capable he should be given equal opportunity. It's not that he is Autistic and unable to sit still.....how about trying out afternoon school. the group is smaller. I strongly encourage group mixing. I send my son to normal kindi..and he is a special child. So what.......