Friday, May 04, 2007

Fuss fuss fuss..


Lately, Jo seems like a bit out of control especially his temper. He would give us a big fuss despite we're at home or outside. In fact, his fuss is due to his over demanding, he wants to get successfully on whatever he requested else just crying or mumbling there. In this kind of situation, hubby always plays a role of becoming his savior, he would give in whatever Jo's requested. I have been telling my hubby about his spoiling issue, but he never taken it as a consideration. It seems so difficult to teach him now, i just can't imagine how is he going to be when he is 10 or more older. I believe family education is important, but i definitely don't like there is a hero to save him whenever i'm teaching him.

Like yesterday, Jo insisted he wanted to eat McDonald the moment we passing by the McDonald, i told him nicely we're not going to take heaty food as the weather is hot, he started to give us his fake crying just after i finished my sentence. Somemore, he was very long-winded, could cry all the way long until the rice was served in another restaurant. In the restaurant, he throwing me another fuss as he insisted he wanted to have cola prior the meal served, i said firmly to him "NO, can't take cola everytime when we're out". And, i gave him a spank on his buttock. His loud crying became soft after eating my spank, but his mouth still saying something (which i couldn't hear cleary) non-stop like retorting me and even snuzzling his nose to the chair, i really couldn't stand him anymore and wanted to drag him out for another spank. But, hubby gave me a big interruption and said "nevermind la..don't let him cry", OMG...he did it again when i trying to teach his son. This is not giving him the best but definitely is harmful to him, i don't want my son becomes a little rascal and like to retort whenever i am trying to rectify him.

Situation always opposite whenever hubby is away to work, most of the time i can well control Jo maybe he knows he doesn't have someone who can protect him...Sometimes, i just feel like my home education is really failure as my son does look like a little rascal sometimes. :<

12 comments:

Allyfeel said...

I guess most kids this age behave this way. Ivan is also very demanding but I really believe that they will outgrow that stage. I spank Ivan too when he gets out of control but sometimes also heartache seeing him cry non stop until no voice the next day. So u r not alone, dun worry so much.

Jan said...

becos our dear Jo knows he got a big kao shan so just by crying he will sure get what he wants. He is just milking the most of daddy. I agree it's extremely hard to discipline a child whenever there are mountains around. hahaha....harder to talk and spank.....heehee....try to brain wash Jo when daddy is not around lor. 3 years old, still can wash....tell him (that why i tell my kids everytime they are nottie)...you don't listen to mummy anymore izzit? you don't love mummy anymore...use a sad tone...make them guilty....muahahahaha

chooi peng said...

KW also like that, even i always spank her, she still the same, but she very "kuai" when i m not around!

CutiePrincessMummy said...

i understand ur frustration there. but i always remind myself not to spank and shout in public. I more adapt the punishment when reach home, for eg. if my princess insist to do, then she has to bear the consequences like no TV at home tat day or others punishments lar.

Well, sometimes it works and sometimes not! :(

HMom said...

I think they are all at that stage. Harvynna does this too and it drives me craaaaazyyyyy! From terrible 2s to terrible 3s.

Vien said...

I think it is time to introduce "consequences" to Jo. Take away his favorite activity whenever he pulls a stunt like this. You must be firm and do what you've "threatened". That way, he will know Mommy means business and even with daddy around, he'll know he can't get dad to help..b'cos the punishment will be done AFTER that (when dad isn't at home).

mommy of two angels said...

i can see the fire coming out your head when ur hubby step in when u discipline Jo.

sorry dunno how to comment la, sensitive issue...husband & wife issue

that's why sometimes i avoid going out so dun end up with so many situations like this...ok...not very good idea...like avoiding issue but sometimes getting angry too many times also not good leh!

chanelwong said...

huisia, don't worry. Jeriel is exactly like Joshua. I was also very worried but after reading your blog, I felt a bit better now...

LZmommy said...

I always think that kids behave better when daddy not around. They are angels when they are with mommies only. Probably daddy seldom spend time with the kids and daddies always give in to them.

aprilWong said...

Just be patient. I'm sure Jo will outgrow this phase soon.

Annie Q said...

eh..my boys also the same thing lei. Crying and fuss almost everyday and every hour. Lately i always lost my patience and i will give them a big spank on the butt! And after that i feel so regret and sad when i see the "red butt" and their cries! *sigh*

Etcetera~Mommy said...

I think if Jo knows even if he could get what he wants now (Cola), he will get the punishment at home later when his sweetheart Daddy is not around.... Afterall, you spend more time with him at home. He'll know that the punishment will come sooner or later for his unreasonable attitude...