Thanks for all of the comments that leaving in my "It happened again..".
Maybe you would feel weird why a man can treat his wife in this way somemore his wife is heavily expecting, i did ask him why, but he didn't admit he's wrong. I assumed he can't see himself clearly and doesn't know he has changed dramatically. He becomes a bit arrogant these days, i ain't sure does his act arrogant in his workplace or not, but i assumed he doesn't. At home, i can sense the different, he seems impatient all the time and his look always like conveying me a message "why you are so ma-fan(troublesome)" ...of course he doesn't admit this..
What i found is maybe is the money problem, you know, sometimes men are like that, they will like very "snooty" when they have money and just know to settle everything by using money. For them, they might think money can do everything including can have more ladies..maybe my hubby hasn't reached to that stage who willing to spend money for other ladies, but for me, he seems so arrogant and maybe he feels like the outsiders better than the insider...i don't know....maybe he wants to try but he just not dare to try...you get what i mean? Of course this is just my presumption and also no point to ask la...who will admit boldly about the affair?
As far as i know i am sure his work is ok, he doesn't have much pressure (as he told me) just sometimes a bit busy. Financial, we're ok, his income is enough for us (including the No.2) and even for his parents. Stress, he said stress only comes when there are lots of things piling up on his desk. He loves Jo deeply which i can't deny. You would agree once you see how he treating Jo. For No.2, i don't know, maybe he will love No.2 like loving Jo or just opposite.
So, what is the problem keep triggering all those blues? Maybe just like you said, he is so insensitive and careless to his wife..he told me he loves me very much and he prays for us everyday..but should the love grow in such a way? Yesterday he took his initiative to approach me, he didn't say what he did (maybe too arrogant and doesn't want to admit) but he acted super-duper lovely to me, so the problem is tentatively settled though i know the problems actually just hide underneath and will be risen anytime..but i just don't want to quarrel to him anymore...
Maybe you would feel weird why a man can treat his wife in this way somemore his wife is heavily expecting, i did ask him why, but he didn't admit he's wrong. I assumed he can't see himself clearly and doesn't know he has changed dramatically. He becomes a bit arrogant these days, i ain't sure does his act arrogant in his workplace or not, but i assumed he doesn't. At home, i can sense the different, he seems impatient all the time and his look always like conveying me a message "why you are so ma-fan(troublesome)" ...of course he doesn't admit this..
What i found is maybe is the money problem, you know, sometimes men are like that, they will like very "snooty" when they have money and just know to settle everything by using money. For them, they might think money can do everything including can have more ladies..maybe my hubby hasn't reached to that stage who willing to spend money for other ladies, but for me, he seems so arrogant and maybe he feels like the outsiders better than the insider...i don't know....maybe he wants to try but he just not dare to try...you get what i mean? Of course this is just my presumption and also no point to ask la...who will admit boldly about the affair?
As far as i know i am sure his work is ok, he doesn't have much pressure (as he told me) just sometimes a bit busy. Financial, we're ok, his income is enough for us (including the No.2) and even for his parents. Stress, he said stress only comes when there are lots of things piling up on his desk. He loves Jo deeply which i can't deny. You would agree once you see how he treating Jo. For No.2, i don't know, maybe he will love No.2 like loving Jo or just opposite.
So, what is the problem keep triggering all those blues? Maybe just like you said, he is so insensitive and careless to his wife..he told me he loves me very much and he prays for us everyday..but should the love grow in such a way? Yesterday he took his initiative to approach me, he didn't say what he did (maybe too arrogant and doesn't want to admit) but he acted super-duper lovely to me, so the problem is tentatively settled though i know the problems actually just hide underneath and will be risen anytime..but i just don't want to quarrel to him anymore...
Is this a typical issue for every family?
14 comments:
I'm glad that u r feeling better now!! Don't worry too much :)! Now that he is already treating u nicely, forgive him once okie? I'm sure u want your no.2 to have a lovely family when he arrives right? also, remember to cheer up!! cheers!!
Sorry for didn't leave a comment on your previous post. I know how you feel. Perhaps he will be better when No.2 is here. Cheer up and talk to friends if need to, ya.
I hope u will have a good chat with him over matters, Huisia.
It is not a good time to face such probs, tho it has happened, but i believe that things can be resoved in a better manner thru good & effective communication.
I once faced some probs that i somehow hated to face, but have to face them. We faced it, straighten things and hv since gotten better.
Wish u all the best! Do take good care of urself, dear...dun over stress urself! :)
Glad to know you feeling better now.Do takecare yourself, and dun think too much if not your no.2 will feel it inside. You want a smilling baby right, cheer up :)
glad to know that you are feeling better now .. anyway .. do take care and think of your children whatever decisions that you going to make .. ok?
till then... take care ok? bye bye
Thanks for you work and have a good day
i've missed tonnes of your entries. tried to catch up the related entry.
I'm glad that you are OK now, or at least able to forgive and forget what has happened.
find some time to talk it over..i'm sure can be solve one, after all kahwin so long edi ;)
Ya huisia, every family also have their own "problem" or I rather say stories behind. What it would turn out eventually will depends on how we react to it.
Have faith in yourself & your hubby, think positively & I believe things will work out much better for you & your family.
your own health and your no.2 is more important at this time. calm down. relax. take a deep breath. glad you are feeling much better now. i find it to talk it out with friends helps a lot to solving family problems. at least you get it out from your system.
i believe things will getting better sooner or later. Hang in there yea!
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These things can happen. Just be open to communicating and you should be able to find improvement. Once the communication dies, nothing else is left.
Well, such things do happen to any kind of families - it's just a matter of how both of you argue or fight over the matter. Meaning, the words and actions you use are crucial, and how you use it can make or break the situation. Every families or couples are bound to have arguments, and I think that is healthy (provided if it is done correctly) because you both get to learn about the other person deeper and try to avoid making the same mistake in future. Your husband may not be good with his spoken words, but I am sure he still loves you and the family. "Sorry" may be the hardest word to say, but it humbles the entire situation - it's a powerful word.
I'm glad things are better now at your home. Take care!
If the problem is still there, you'll have to face it again one day. I think both of you must make effort to learn the effective way to communicate with each other. Take care and good luck! *hugs*
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